This page is essential reading, especially for youth. It was written by a man who had some great insight on the importance of dressing modestly. Here’s a great quote:
I’ve read tens of thousands of pages of theology and sex ed, but I never learned how to treat a woman until I dated one who dressed modestly. It was captivating, and I realized for the first time that immodest dress gets in the way of seeing a woman for whom she is. Immodest outfits might attract a man to a girl’s body, but it distracts him from seeing her as a person. As one man said, “If you want a man to respect you, and perhaps eventually fall in love with you, then you must show him that you respect yourself and that you recognize your dignity before God.”ii
A woman who dresses modestly inspires a guy in a way that I’m not ashamed to admit I cannot explain. I suppose it is safe to say that it conveys your worth to us. When a woman dresses modestly, I can take her seriously as a woman because she isn’t preoccupied with clamoring for attention. Such humility is radiant. Unfortunately, many women are so preoccupied with turning men’s heads that they overlook their power to turn our hearts. (Source)
That sentence in red is the keeper. I’ve experienced that too. And any honest gentleman who carefully searches his heart will know it to be true.
Dear women, physical beauty is great but if you want to be loved for more than your body, then you shouldn’t make it so preponderant.
If you’re sick of dating guys who are losers and obsessed with sex, maybe you should start by asking yourself if the way you dress is attracting the wrong crowd. Ask yourself honestly: do you want to be stared at like a pin-up or do you want to be loved unconditionally for who you are?
I leave you with this thought:
Let’s assume that a girl dresses provocatively and she comes across a genuinely good man. The man is no better off because of her outfit. Men are more visually stimulated than women, and immodesty can easily trigger lustful thoughts. When men harbor these impure ideas, lust separates us from Christ, the source of unconditional love. Does a woman really want to separate men from the source of the unconditional love that she seeks? If not, then why not opt for the more modest outfit? There’s nothing wrong with wearing things that make you look attractive, but as a Christian woman, seductive and sexy outfits should not be part of your wardrobe. If your heart is saying, “Is this too short?” or “Does this look too tight?”, listen to that voice. It has already answered your question.