This letter was written today by a dear female friend of mine. It is addressed to Rosemary Ganley in response to her comments in a front page Ottawa Citizen hit piece today.
Incidentally, I forgot to mention in the piece I wrote in response to Ms. Ganley that, far from being a recognized group in the Catholic Church, their Lincoln, Nebraska chapter was formally excommunicated by the bishop there along with a number of other fraudulent groups pretending to be Catholic.
March 8, 2008
Catholics for a Free Choice – Canada
P.O. Box 65179
Dear Ms. Ganley:
I am writing to you as I am deeply saddened after reading the front page article in today’s Ottawa Citizen regarding communion for pro-choice politicians and your comments related to a woman’s right to choose, as well as the misleading information on your website. As a Catholic woman, I am sick and tired of hearing the term “a woman’s right to choose” when it boils down to choosing whether or not we should kill a small, helpless human being who is at our mercy. I am also disappointed by your organization’s stance on birth control and felt compelled to share my views with you as a fellow woman, hoping from the bottom of my heart that you might consider my point of view. I find it ironic, that your organization considers itself to be pro-woman, as in fact, it is quite the opposite. Abortion and birth control HARM women.
Unfortunately birth control portrays fertility as a disease that needs to be treated with pills, for example; however, fertility, along with all my other bodily functions which I do not suppress, is normal and healthy and part of what makes me a human being. By physically suppressing my fertility, it affects my dignity as a human person and as a woman. I have been married for a few years and have experienced the joy and many blessings of being able to give my whole body to my husband and vice versa without holding back any part of it (including fertility) through “natural family planning” (NFP). We have followed the sympto-thermal method and now the Creighton Model System which consist of observing and charting on a daily basis the naturally occurring symptoms of the fertile and infertile phases of my cycle and allows us to know ahead of time whether intimate sexual contact may or may not lead to pregnancy. It is not like contraception as it does not place a barrier between us and there is an openness to life (couples must discuss their fertility and prayerfully decide whether or not to try conceiving on a daily basis).
Although we are now actively trying to conceive, for the first two years of marriage, we mutually decided to avoid pregnancy for various reasons. It was not a one-time decision, but a decision we prayerfully re-evaluated together regularly. Yes, my husband is actively involved in OUR fertility. He is responsible for charting my fertility symptoms every day, knows all about my fertility cycle, and has a deep admiration and respect for it too. Using NFP to avoid pregnancy (statistics show that it is just as effective as condoms and the pill, if not more, if used properly) requires periods of abstinence. During those periods of abstinence, we have learned to love one another in different, creative, and profound ways (e.g., through acts of service, physical touch, words of affirmation, etc…) and it has encouraged us to learn each others’ “love languages” and develop a deep, romantic relationship, which is every woman’s dream! Being able to periodically abstain has also shown me that my husband really respects me and that our relationship goes beyond sex. I have never felt treated like an object and his involvement has really made me feel that we are a team, as we should be! Finally, NFP has greatly improved our communication in all areas of our marriage. We must communicate on a daily basis for charting purposes and to discuss our fertility. It has reminded us that fertility is a God-given gift and by communicating daily, we have been able to both freely choose whether or not it was the right time to conceive, simply by deciding to abstain or not during fertile times…no barriers needed…no need to poison my body with pills! My husband loves me so much that he cares about my health too and does not want me to take anything that could potentially harm my body. Unlike birth control, NFP is pro-woman, pro-marriage and protects a woman’s dignity and God-given gift of fertility.
It is interesting how both the divorce and abortion rates have dramatically increased since the introduction of birth control; however, if you look at the divorce statistics for married couples who are open to life and who follow natural family planning methods, it is extremely low. I can personally testify that NFP has brought my husband and I closer together and has taught us more about the true meaning of marital love. Some other statistics of oral contraceptives are that they increase the risks associated to breast cancer, may cause infertility, have many other side effects such as high blood pressure, blood clots, heart attacks, and even harm the environment through estrogen overload. Contraception has also resulted in the degradation of the sexual act and mutual respect [the sexual relationship becomes one of utility, self-gratification (often leads to husbands objectifying their wives) and is empty of its significance and you have to wonder why pornography has become so widespread], in an increase in premarital sex, abortion (due to more unwanted children…the pill and condoms are not fool proof), and is responsible for the demographic collapse of the West (we are not even reproducing enough to support our society).
As for abortion, I think that hiding behind the words “it’s a woman’s choice” is just plain evil. If a child was standing before you, would you take out a gun and kill him/her because he/she is in your way? Yes, this is a very strong example and is complete lunacy, but I do not think it differs that much from what we do to our unborn children with abortion. Children are not a commodity that we can dispose of whenever we choose, no matter what the circumstance (what ever happened to adoption as an option?). They have a right to life, just as much as we do, just like when we were once babies in our mothers’ wombs. This is NOT a woman’s rights issue and as a woman, I am disgusted by organizations like yours who hide behind this LIE and who accuse pro-lifers of violating women of their rights. Being pro-LIFE means being pro-woman, pro-man, pro-baby. Not only do I acknowledge that mass silent holocausts of babies happen every year in Canada, I also acknowledge that abortion hurts women…emotionally, physically, and spiritually. So if your organization was really pro-woman, it would not be pro-abortion (the same applies to supporting birth control, as I explain above). Also, a lot of those innocent children being murdered by abortion are women, whether or not that matters to you.
I would like to end off with a few quotes that have inspired me over the years and that have given me some food for thought:
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you…” (Jer 1:5)
“God’s love does not distinguish between the infant in the mother’s womb or the child or the youth or the adult or the older person. In each one God sees His image and likeness. Human life is a manifestation of God and His glory.” (Pope Benedict XVI)
“A person’s a person no matter how small.” (Dr. Seuss)
Also, you may be interested in checking out this website: http://www.abortionno.org/ (if this is not a human being who was murdered, I do not know what it is).
Yours in Christ,