Betrayal and the Power of Relationship

I agree with Mark on many points in his analysis.  And he’s right on about it being about relationships.

I’ve recently been on both sides of this divide, in my personal life.  On one occasion, I called the bull and suffered terribly because of it for over a year and probably for much longer for “righteousness sake”.  On the other occasion, I did what McQueary did and punted (and no it’s not sex related).

Feel crappy about it too.

Either way, it’s not pleasant because even if you’re “brave”, you keep second guessing yourself if you did the right thing, considering the fallout to your relationship with that person.  I don’t feel at all comfortable with the continued judgements placed on McQueary and Paterno.  Sure, they fell short. Sure, they should bear the responsibility.  But they’re sinners like the rest of us…and also worthy of redemption too.

In the blogging world here at Socon or Bust, readers will take note that we’ve been pretty harsh and condemnatory against D&P and the Bishops’ actions and positions regarding the abortion scandal. But it was not originally like that at all.  We asked politely for the bishops and D&P to address the evidence.  But they didn’t do it.  They became obstinate in their positions and the rest is sordid history.

Everyone makes mistakes and Catholics are bound to forgive.  If D&P and the Bishops had acted like Christian gentlemen when they were busted, everything would have been fine.  We’d kiss and make up, have a beer together and move on with life.  But that’s not what happened.  There’s a difference in how one treats someone who admits they were wrong and someone who doesn’t admit they were wrong.

It is wrong to keep hammering on something when that person made a mistake.  But it’s not wrong (and indeed becomes an moral obligation) to keep criticizing when someone refuses to admit they made a mistake.

Big difference between the two.

2 thoughts on “Betrayal and the Power of Relationship

  1. I didn’t like Shea’s article. He may have some good points, but I found it weak. Then I found this line from Kathy Shaidle, which rang true for me.
    When we blithely say that “we don’t know what we would do under those circumstances”, we make cowardice our default position.”

  2. The Gospel is a hard message sometimes. “For if you love father, mother, brothers, sister more than you love Him, you are not worthy of Him.”

    It’s very sobering.

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