Moral Issues


Forcing Us Into Their Bedrooms

by Chris Beneteau


After reading the intollerant letters to the editor by Lin Bennett, Chris Couper, and Pat and Allison Gray, I felt that I must come to the defence of Karen Lahey.

The issue of the homosexual person should be left out of the debate. We are all called to tolerate and love all of our neighbours, yet this does not mean that we have to accept and approve of every single behaviour in the name of open-mindedness. For example, sodomy or anal intercourse is a very important part of the male homosexual experience. And this just the tip of the iceberg. There are many other behaviours that are both shocking and extremely dangerous. All one has to do is watch the annual gay pride parade in Toronto to see these behaviours on display. Unfortunately however, many heterosexuals engage in the same behaviours. Should I be considered 'hateful' because I believe oral sex to be degrading and an assault on the dignity of the human person?

Is it 'close-minded' of me to deplore sado-masochism? Am I to be considered 'heterophobic' as well as 'homophobic' because I abhor these and other behaviours? If so, then I wear these words as badges of honor.

Whether or not homosexuality is a choice is irrelevant. Homosexuals as well as heterosexuals can both choose to avoid sexual behaviours (such as sodomy) which the weight of scientific evidence suggest are dangerous and potentially fatal. If homosexuals and heterosexuals choose to engage in these behaviours that is their own business, but don't expect me to encourage or support the perpetuation of these behaviours.

It is for this reason that I, like Karen Lahey, would never support curriculum materials for children that presents homosexual and heterosexual perversions as being morally acceptable. Society places value judgements on all forms of human behaviour, so why are sexual behaviours exempt?

It is one thing for people to do whatever they want behind closed doors, yet it is another thing to force the rest of society to embrace the behaviours. While I agree that the government does not belong in the bedrooms of the nation, I also do not think that they should open the doors and force us to peek in.


Originally published as a Letter to the Editor to the Kingston Whig Standard